You aren't.

[He has no right to say this. He knows it. Still, he forces it out, makes himself say it, because Jake needs to hear it even if Dirk shouldn't be the one saying it.]

You care deeply and feel intensely. That opens you up to getting hurt, so you avoid them. The feelings are still there, though. You're just scared of them because you know better than any of us how you can lose who you love.

That's how I see it, anyway.